The Game of Child Custody Laws

In this article I’d like to talk a little bit about the subject of child custody laws and how they affect both parents. Divorce is extremely simple if there are no children involved. Basically, there’s just an equitable distribution of assets and the two individuals part ways. However, when children are involved and it can result in years of litigation and hundreds of thousands of dollars lost during the process.
The divorce industry stands to make a lot of money when there is a disputed child custody issue. My child custody dispute was far and away the most difficult situation I’ve ever faced . I’m a combat veteran, I’ve been shot at, and I’ve lost both my parents; but the most painful personal situation I’ve ever experienced was when my custody rights were violated and I had my children taken away from me.
There have been a great many studies that have shown that joint custody and shared parenting are absolutely the best possible scenario for any child in a divorced household. Ideally both parents live within the same town and their kids split time between the two homes with equal involvement by both mother and father. This is, of course, assuming that both parents want to be involved.
The reason why this scenario is so rare is that the divorce industry simply doesn’t encourage it. There is too much money to be made through the litigation and administration of split child custody arrangements. They do this by setting up a custodial and non-custodial parent; if the child spent equal time at both homes there would be no need for child support. So by awarding custody to one parent only it sets up a situation where child support needs to be paid from the party making more money to the party making less money. Most often it is the man who pays the woman.
The way the divorce industry makes money on this is an old banking trick. They collect money from one party and hold it a few days or a week later, and they make money on the float—or the interest that collects during the time it is in their account. That amount may not seem like a lot initially, but when all the child support payments each year are added together, it suddenly becomes a large amount. The child support amounts that are mandated by the government have almost nothing to do with what is best for the child.
Personally, I spent my last dime paying my attorney in an attempt to get custody of my children. When in reality it was a foregone conclusion that my wife would get custody—I’m a father and fathers are discriminated against in the system. My ex-wife would have had to have been a criminal or a drug addict for me to get custody of my children. If I’d known how impossible the system was to begin with, I would never have tried to take them on. I would have attempted to negotiate better visitation rights or something that would really have benefitted me.
The Friendly Parent doctrine is an idea that is gaining more favorable attention in the U.S. It says that the parent most likely to include the other parent in the parenting process should get custody. However this doesn’t apply in my state. So all my ex-wife had to do to get sole custody is simply not include me. She blocked me out, refused to communicate and played the game. And it worked because the system is set up to place her in the advantage.
I am more motivated by child custody issues than anything else in my work. Like many fathers, I want to be part of my children’s lives and this is the reason behind my writing, my blogs, and my websites. For more information, please visit my site: http://www.greatcustody411.com.

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